Can a Cheater Change Her Spots?

 *Don’t miss the latest CILN story “Cookies = Strippers” below the blog. Is going to the strip club considered cheating? You decide!

“Once a cheater always a cheater.” I beg to differ.

Me:  Could you take a chance and date someone known for cheating in her past relationships?

Stuart:  At this point in my life, I wouldn’t take the chance. It would be a waste of time.

Me:  What if she claimed to no longer cheat? Could you trust her? Or would it be too risky?

Stuart:  Too risky. I like to look at people’s pasts to determine their futures. This may be unfair, but that’s how I do it.

Ouch. Well if a person’s future is determined by his/her past then no man would ever take a chance on me. I have cheated on basically every boyfriend I’ve ever had. There, my skeleton is out of the closet. I cannot really provide an explanation for my infidelity besides being young, selfish, and immature.

My last relationship was over 4 years ago. Since then I have grown a lot within myself, with my relationship with God, and with my relationships with the opposite sex. I now know what I want and what I do not want. And I recognized my own shortcomings in relationships and have made great strides to overcome them. With all that being said I still find myself having to answer for the mistakes of my past. I’m finding that some men have a difficult time accepting my “spotted” history.

There are many risks involved when startings new relationships. The biggest -I think we all can agree- is heartbreak. We want to avoid it at all costs. And in some eyes, choosing to date a former cheater is a huge gamble. But as any gambler would tell you, the only way to win is to stay at the table.

“If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17) This scripture speaks about the ministry of reconciliation. We have been reconciled with God through Christ, with God “not counting men’s sins against them” (2 Corinthians 5:19). Following God’s example we should work to be reconciled with our brothers and sisters not counting their sins again them as well (not just talking about romantic relationships either).

So … am I worth the risk? Heck yeah I am! (Duh! lol

So take a chance. 

– Belle  

While on the topic of cheaters… Is going to the strip club considered cheating? You decide.

Cookies = Strippers

Laugher:  Breign from Memphis, TN

Premise:  First visit to the strip club

* Breign’s grad chapter was in town and wanted to take him to a strip club since they knew he was still a virgin. (I hope they were not planning to pop his cherry with a stripper!)

* Breign was only 19 so the security guard would not let him in…or at least not at first.

* The security guard then told Breign “if you help me I’ll help you.” The guard then reached down and pulled out a box of girl scout cookies that he was selling for his daughter! (wow!)

* So of course Breign bought a box and was allowed in the club. (You know what? I can’t even be mad at the guard. I was a girl scout, and I know that they want those cookies sold by any means necessary! lol)

Let’s just say that Breign’s first visit to the strip club was nothing like he imagined. Between the smell, illegal activities, unattractive women, and his married frat bruh giving (not receiving) some oral attention (wink, wink) to a dancer (now that is cheating!), I guess the best part of the night for him was the girl scout cookies!

It just goes to show that all that glitters isn’t gold. Especially in a strip club!

Until next time, keep laughing!

*To watch the hilarious video for Cookies = Stripper click the link

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