“It’s All Mine…I Paid For It”

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Synthetic or natural, Virgin/Raw, Brazilian, Indian, Yaki, Remy. It can be sewn, fused, bonded, or braided. What am I talking about? Weave! Many people believe that black women are the only ones the wear weave. NEGATIVE my dear readers. Weave is popular among all races: whites, Asian, Latinos, everyone. Weaves have become so common that people aren’t offended anymore when someone ask, “What kind of hair do you have in?” or “How much did you pay for that hair, girl that looks like that good hair?” Besides wearing braids I have never worn a weave. I know you’re saying, “Braids is weave chick!” But when I think of weave I imagine the free-flowing hair styles that are achieved by adding extra hair to get more volume and length to ones own natural hair. One reason I’ve never worn a weave is because of this crazy fear I have. I would think that if someone pulls your hair and you’re wearing a weave it would hurt more than if it were just your natural hair being pulled. Not that there is any hair pulling going on over here, but that’s just my crazy fear. It’s okay to laugh, I laugh at myself because I know how crazy that sounds.

So what is the fascination with hair weave? Why do women spend $100s of dollars on “extra hair?” Do you know what I could do with the money that some of the people I know spend on weave? Let’s just say me and the Micheal Kors website would be best friends. But seriously, why do so many women seem to be obsessed with wearing weaves? Is it a desire to be like the images they see in the media, an attempt to fit in, or insecurity? It almost seems to be an addiction for some. I had someone tell me once that she literally goes through fits when she takes her weave out; she can’t go more than 2 or 3 days before she has to have it put back in. And her own hair is beautiful and thick so I don’t understand the need for additional hair. I am not totally against wearing a weave, but I’m not a big fan of it either. So I wanted to get some additional opinions to see if I am missing the point or making too big of a deal out of the need for weave. Here’s what some women had to say:

photo32“I wear weave because I get tired of wearing the natural look all the time. I’m very diverse, especially when it comes to hair. I feel extra sexy when I have weave in. I don’t know why, but just the length and how it makes me look older gives me a new found confidence within myself. Weave is convenient and is a great protective style for my natural hair.” ~A.S.

“I’m a hair girl. I love everything about hair. I get bored easily and wearing a weave gives me the opportunity to change my style as much as I want without damaging my own hair.” ~B.K.

“I love my weave! But I started wearing it to transition from relaxed to natural hair. I wear sew ins and only wear Virgin hair. Virgin hair gives you ease without the tangles and matted weaves that is common with Beauty Supply hair. Weave gives you a chance to have some variety with your hair styles as well as keep your hair away from hot styling tools.” ~S.Y.

So what do men think about women that wear weaves? One of these comments shocked me:

“It doesn’t bother me. As long as it’s kept up and fits her face well.” ~E.B.

“I don’t like that most women are going natural. I am not a fan of the natural hair styles because they do not loo good on most women. Some can pull it off, but those that can’t should stick with the weaves or relaxers. I would rather have a woman with a weave than a woman with natural or “nappy” hair.” ~E.T.

“Hair style plays a huge part in who I date. If a woman starts off looking fake with fake parts such as hair, then it makes me ask, what else is she covering up.” ~A.A.

“As long as it’s not that cheap stuff where you can see the tracks, I have no problem with weave.” ~C.C.

“Wear it! Go to the salon and get it professionally done! Whatever makes you look good and sexy. If you can’t grow it…sew it!” ~R.S.

So it seems that most women wear weaves out of convenience. And most men just want the woman to look good, and if that means getting a weave, SO BE IT! Now I don’t want anyone to think that I am just anti weaves or that I’m too goo to wear a weave. It’s just not for me. What I do have a problem with are the girls that depend on things like hair weave to define their beauty. Long hair doesn’t automatically make you pretty or sexy. Beauty, true beauty, comes from within. Don’t fall into the trap of trying to look like the Beyonces and the Kenya Moores of the tv world. Everyone is unique in their own way. Yes, I like for my hair to look good; and let’s be real, when your hair looks good it makes you feel good. But in the end that’s not what defines my beauty. My hair can laid, but if my attitudes is stank then guess what, I’m still UGLY! I Samuel 16:7 says God see not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart. There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself and wanting to look nice, but don’t let your outward appearance be the only thing that defines your beauty.

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2 thoughts on ““It’s All Mine…I Paid For It”

  1. “Need for Weave!” “IF you can’t grow it…sew it!” LMBO, y’all a mess! I personally do not prefer weave; I like to work with what God gave me. I feel like the use of weaves, nails, eye lashes, excessive make-up is the same as lying. That’s just me. My aunt disagrees. She says, “If you’re gonna add hair, ADD HAIR!” Her words as she told me about her new ponytail that comes down to her butt! *Life is too short; do what makes you happy!

    • I agree with you Belle3bellerina. I prefer to stick with what God gave me. I feel like all the extras is sometimes not needed. I want everyone to see me for who I am, not all my accessories, i.e., makeup and extra hair. Now I do wear makeup but its only like once or twice a month and its definitely not a complete transformation from my original appearance. But you also can’t knocked those that think like your aunt. Life is short! So if weave makes you happy then by all means…go big or go home.

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