Can I Laugh Now? *Turning Pain And Embarrassment Into Laughter Since 2011*
You’ve been together for almost 3 years now. You’ve met all of his family and friends, you’ve changed your relationship status on Facebook, and there are pictures of the two of you together all over Instagram…his mama even likes you. So when is he going to make it official and declare his undying, unwavering love for you by putting a ring on it? You’ve discussed it, he knows you’re praying for it, but he’s not ready.
You know she’s the one. All the other girls you’ve dated have nothing on her. She’s smart, beautiful, successful; she loves God and is great with children. She makes you feel like no one else has ever made you feel. You know without a doubt that she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life. But she’s is so success driven that marriage is not on her mind right now. She wants to achieve all she can and go as high as she can in her career before she gets married and has a family.
Waiting on Mr or Mrs right but they seem to have gotten lost? Most people are dating for a purpose. That purpose is usually marriage…unless you’re like me. I’m sure what my purpose for dating is, but it sure as heck isn’t marriage. So if you’re dating to one day reach marriage, how long is too long to wait on someone to finally be ready for marriage? Should there be a limit on how long you wait for your boyfriend/girlfriend to get themselves together? I say no. Now let me explain that no. Everyone has their own limit or breaking point and it usually varies depending on the situation. So technically you can’t put an official time limit on how long you are suppose to wait on someone, but we do it anyway.
So how long do you wait on someone? Well, let’s look at your relationship. Your wait time is going to depend on YOUR relationship. Now I need you to be honest when answering these questions, don’t lie to save face. The first and most important question is does this person love and have a relationship with God? If the answer is no, then they definitely do not love you and you shouldn’t be in a relationship with them. There is no need for you to continue reading this blog…GET OUT NOW! If the answer is yes, keep reading.
Question 2: How long have you been in a relationship with this person? It is my belief that you should date at least 2 years before expecting the commitment of marriage. If it has been less than 1 year, stop rushing it. If it’s been 2 to 3 years, have a discussion about it, but don’t push the issue. If you have to constantly push the issue of marriage on someone, you probably shouldn’t wait on them. Something that has to be forced isn’t genuine.
Question 3: Does communicating with them seem like a burden…on them? Every time you try to talk to them their body seems to get heavy. They start to slump over in exhaustion and their facial expression suddenly goes from sugar to salt. Communication is key in a healthy relationship. If you can’t talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend without them fighting it, you will never get anywhere in that relationship. It will always be one-sided because only one of you will be happy, and it won’t be you.
Question 4: Would you let this person have your ATM card and pin number…all day? You have to have a significant amount of trust to let someone have your ATM card and pin number. At least I would because I need ALL of my money, I ain’t got time for nobody to be dipping in. If you can’t trust someone why would try to wait it out? Now at some point just about everyone in your life will do something to make you question whether you can trust them or not. But, if this person has caused you to lose trust in them and they are not working to regain that trust, why are you waiting for them to get it together? If you can’t trust someone you probably have very little respect for them. Respect and trust…without there is no need to wait.
Question 5: Really?! You need more evidence as to whether you should wait around on someone??? Come on people! Truthfully only you can answer this question. The examples I gave above are good reasons not to stick around, but only you know the details of your relationship and before reading this blog you already knew the answer to the question. You know that gut feeling you have right now? Yep, you already know.
Right people energize you, wrong people exhaust you. Are you energized or exhausted? If you’re exhausted, you’ve been waiting too long.
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