Little People, Big World

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Let’s face it, when it comes to dating, size matters.  Wipe that smirk off your face, when I say size I mean height. Children measuring height  Unfortunately, what first attracts us to a person is looks.  As much as people like to say “it doesn’t matter what a person looks like”, we all have something that we like about and look for physically in a potential mate.  Whether you’re a leg or butt man, or a woman that is attracted to muscles or a man’s eyes, looks play at least a small role in what draws you to a person.  But what about height?  Do you have a height requirement when dating?  Can a person be too tall or too short?  Does your height determine your character or how one will conduct themselves in a relationship?  I mean surely you can’t judge a person based on their height.

I’ve noticed that most men do not care about height, unless they are what is considered short for a man.  Those men that are height challenged seem to associate height with their ego or manhood.  They feel as if a woman that is taller than them might make them look less like the one who wears the pants in the relationship, taking away from their manhood.  Women equate height with protection.  We want to feel like our man can protect us.  So if he isn’t taller than us AFTER we put on put on our heels, he probably won’t make the cut.  Except for Kevin Hart’s girlfriend, she loves him even with her heels on.  She LOVES her little person!  Just kidding, I love Kevin Hart and he looks extremely happy whenever he’s with his girl, height challenge and all.

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I have a few male friends that are height challenged.  I mean I’m barely hitting 5’0 myself so I don’t hang around a lot of giants.  I choose not to be the midget of the group so I stick to my own kind.  But one friend in particular is currently pursuing a girl that is taller than him.  Not that I don’t think he is man enough to handle her, it’s just odd to picture them together.  So when I mentioned this subject to some of my Laughers, tall and short, they had an opinion about it too.

The Male Perspective

“I think the height should be close, give or take 3 – 4 inches.  The tallest I’ve dated was 6’4 and the shortest was 5’2…it just didn’t look right.”  ~S.H.

“I don’t want to date a woman way taller than me.  It’s a little awkward for me–like a circus act.”  ~E.B.

“My height helps me.  Women love my height but to me it doesn’t matter, it’s all about heart.  If the heart is good then the height doesn’t matter.” ~B.J.

“Height doesn’t matter to me.  I got a 6 ft side chick right now…she’s 6’3 with heels.”  ~C.C.

The Women Speak

“In dating, height matters because you have personal preferences and you are just getting to know them.  Now me personally, I just want you to be taller than me, and I’m short so it really hasn’t been an issue finding that.”  ~R.H.

“You can’t protect me if you’re shorter than me.”  ~C.B.

“Height shouldn’t matter but it does.  Whoever I date has to be at least the same height as me with heels on.  I just don’t feel comfortable with a short man.  I want to feel like my man can protect me if I’m in danger and I just wouldn’t feel secure with someone short.”  ~A.N.G.

“It shouldn’t matter but honestly, and this may sound shallow, we’re usually initially attracted to people because of their appearance: physique, build and height are things that we look at.  I don’t want to be towering over my man.  I want to feel protected and safe and a short man makes me feel like he can’t supply those things.  But I do know that a short man is very capable of doing those things.”  ~A.G.

“For me height does matter.  I’m almost 6 ft tall and I prefer a man to be at least my height or taller.  I’m not saying that I would never give a short guy a chance, but it’s not my first choice.  I like the idea of being able to wear heels and not hovering over my date.”  ~L.K.

So as you can see the men are pretty divided on the issue of height.  But I will say the two that said height DOES matter are both what I consider height challenged.  LOL!  Now the ladies all have the same concern that I stated before, protection.  We, for some reason, think height means we are safe and protected.  Now before all the short men jump out of their clown car and attack me, let me just state a few things in your favor.  I am very well aware that just because a guy is tall or taller than the woman he is dating, that doesn’t mean he could protect her any better than someone shorter.  I have personally witnessed the strength of one of my height challenged male friends.  I have also seen one of my height challenged male friends jump in and pull a child out of the pool when she started to go under.  So I know that height has nothing to do with the strength, heart and integrity of a man.  But, unfortunately, most of us would prefer a tall man, or at least taller than us.

Me personally, I prefer someone Usher’s height, build, skin color….aw hell I prefer Usher himself!  Big ups to all my short Laughers…male or female we have to stick together.  We’re just little people in a big world.

Until next time Laughers…Keep Laughing!

~Kitta

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Kitta, a native of Jackson, TN, is a Laugh Coach, blogger and co-founder of Can I Laugh Now? This Traveling Media Personality is a graduate of the University of Memphis, where she earned her degree in Criminology and Criminal Justice.  Kitta believes in spreading joy, one laugh at a time.

Kitta, a native of Jackson, TN, is a Laugh Coach, blogger and co-founder of Can I Laugh Now? This Traveling Media Personality is a graduate of the University of Memphis, where she earned her degree in Criminology and Criminal Justice. Kitta believes in spreading joy, one laugh at a time.

So You Fancy Huh?!

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A few months I did a photo shoot for my birthday.  I had no problem choosing a photographer.  It was a no-brainer to go with Miss Fancy herself, Trunetta Atwater of Trunetta Atwater Photography.  On August 20, 2013 I joined her Fancy 150 Movement.  What is the Fancy 150 Movement you ask?  You’re so inquisitive! I love that about y’all!  Well, let me first tell you a little about Tru, as she is affectionately called by those who know her.

Fancy 5 Tru specializes in boudoir photography, but trust me she can do ANYTHING!  From wedding photos to high school senior pictures, she’s sure to make you Fancy and capture every moment of your event in a way that only she can.  She’s a beast with the camera and once you have a photo shoot with her, you won’t let anyone else near you with a camera.  Yes, she’s that good!  She holds a degree in Finance and an MBA…very smart, educated young lady.  Now I’m sure you’re thinking, “How does a Finance major end up doing photography?”  We’ll get to that later, but trust me, it was her destiny.

Tru started doing photography as a hobby and soon discovered that she had a love for the art of capturing life through photos.  It wasn’t long before she was in high demand and after much prayer she decided to answer the call of photography.  Oh yes, it’s her calling.  She took a leap of faith, quit her job, and started doing photography full-time.  God is using Tru to help other women find their beauty, talents, and their inner strength.  Once you have the Trunetta Atwater photography experience, you are a different person.  You walk away feeling prettier inside and out, with your head held a little bit higher.

Now back to this Fancy 150 Movement.  The 150 movement is Tru’s effort to shoot, empower and inspire women.  The number 150 is significant because it is her goal to shoot 150 women.  Through these photo shoots she encourages women to tell their stories about what empowers and inspires them.  Let me tell you, Tru has a gift for making women talk about things that they wouldn’t otherwise bring up in a normal conversation.  Before I arrived for my appointment I had already told myself, “Tru will NOT get me to open up about ANYTHING!  I will take pictures and I will leave! No expressing myself, Tru will NOT get me to talk!”  Ha!  Who was I kidding, Tru broke me down like a, like a…well let’s just say she broke me DOWN! When I left my heart felt lighter, and I realized a lot more about myself…things that I never really thought about before.  Can you believe it?  But I’m not mad at Tru, she was just doing what she does best.  She made me Fancy inside and out.

Tru is also bringing more events to the city of Jackson, TN.  Just recently she teamed up with Stephanie Graham, founder of AHY (A Healthier You) and presented “Fancy’s Fall Ladies Night Out” event.  This event was held at the Carnegie in downtown Jackson and included vendors from other female business owners, a fashion show, wine tasting and live perfomances. This event brought women of all races and backgrounds together under one roof with nothing but positivity, good energy, and inspiration flowing through the room.  If you missed this event, you might want to like her fan page on Facebook, Trunetta Atwater Photographer, to stay in the loop on future events.  Her next event is the “Holiday Faces” FREE PHOTO EVENT, Canned Food and Toy Drive.  This is a free mini holiday photo session for children 10 years and under.  Donate a canned food product to get a $2 credit for each item donated, or a $10 credit for each toy donated, up to $20 credit available.  All food and toys will be donated to a local charity.  Click here to RSVP to this event Holiday Faces Free Photo Event.

I can only tell you about the Fancy experience, I can’t feel it for you.  To have your own Fancy experience, contact Trunetta Atwater and join the movement TODAY!

Check out a few of the pics from my shoot!

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Watch my entire interview with Tru below…

Trunetta Atwater Interview

Until next Laughers…Keep Laughing!

~Kitta

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Kitta, a native of Jackson, TN, is a Laugh Coach, blogger and co-founder of Can I Laugh Now? This Traveling Media Personality is a graduate of the University of Memphis, where she earned her degree in Criminology and Criminal Justice.  Kitta believes in spreading joy, one laugh at a time.
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