Turning Pain Into Laughter Since 2011
We all know at least one parent that thinks their child can do no wrong. Or that their child would never act a certain way or is capable of bad or less that favorable behavior. You know, the type that have kids that appear to be angels in front of the parents but are actually little devils.
That’s right, DEVILS…imps! It’s enough to make you want to take your belt off and whoop the parent for all the bad things you KNOW their child has done. Oh, so you don’t know anyone like that?! Let me give you an example. Growing up I had an aunt and uncle that, for some reason, didn’t want me to play with their daughter…MY OWN COUSIN! We even lived next door to each other. And the sad part is my cousin and I were very close, like best friends. Can you imagine living next door to your best friend and not being allowed to play with them? I wasn’t welcomed in their house, no sleepovers, and she couldn’t tag along with me and my other cousins when we took little trips into town (I’m from a little country town)…NOT EVEN TO THE GROCERY STORE!
For some reason I was considered a “bad influence”. Even though I was generally a good kid, with the exception of the few times that all kids get in trouble for doing the stupid things that all kids do. I was a good student, always made the honor roll and had the certificates to prove it. Even as we got older, even though I always remained a good student, wasn’t considered “fast”, didn’t do drugs or drink, or didn’t run with the wrong crowd, I still wasn’t good enough to associate with their daughter.
So what makes a parent think that their child is too good? That their child is incapable of certain “unspeakable acts”? I’m not a parent but I’m sure it’s easier and comforting for every parent to believe their child, or children, is a saint…that they would never do anything unethical or immoral. Unfortunately we don’t live in a world of butterscotch and gumdrops, we live in America and your precious baby is probably doing all sorts of McNasty things.
Some parents are overprotective. You know the kind, they shield their kids from the bad seeds in order to block the bad influence. But most of the time their kids ARE the bad influence. For example, growing up I had a friend who had very strict parents. They made every attempt to keep her away from certain influences, rarely allowing her to socialize with other kids, attend school functions, or attend any outings on the weekends. Well, she would sneak out of the house at lest twice a week, had more boyfriends in high school than I’ve had in my lifetime, and ended up pregnant before graduation. She had THE WORST reputation in school! So all of her parents protective efforts FAILED!
I’ve learned to always expect the unexpected. You absolutely cannot put anything past anyone. Every child, no matter how well behaved, is going to step out of bounds at some point. Of course you want to keep your children away from gangs, drugs, sex, and whatever else you think will cause a downfall in their lives. But you can never say what your child won’t do.
Oh, and as far as that situation with my cousin, well let me just say I love her dearly (the disclaimer). She was always into more trouble than I was. I have no kids and no baby daddies and I’m proud to say I’m a college graduate with a good head on my shoulders. I am an avid giver, that has created many community service projects and an entrepreneur in the making. She has 4 kids and I’m not sure how many baby daddies. Now I’m not throwing shade at my cousin because once again I love her dearly. But as I said before, you can never say what your child will and will not do. If her parents had allowed us to spend more time together I could have possibly been a better influence for her. Oh well, hate to say I told you so but…
As always…Keep Laughing!